Everything you have experienced success with in your life began with a decision to try. A decision to say yes. A yes that lead to more yeses over time. An undetermined amount of time in which you have molded your craft, your expertise. Think about your decision to try.
I myself am guilty of having feared failure. Isn’t that why we decide not to try? Fear of possibly letting someone down, letting yourself down, being embarrassed, bullied even? The hell with those instincts. Be gone with them. Override them, fill those thoughts with memos of “I will be successful”. It makes sense if you really think about it. To be successful you have to put forth effort. Regardless of how ‘naturally talented’ you think you might be at your craft, there are people as good or better out there. And you have to try to beat them.
Once you’ve decided to finally dive into the pool of your soon-to-be expertise, you’re going to need to stay afloat. In order to accomplish this, it’s going to greatly benefit you to have friends in your corner. Those friends should be anyone that supports and/or teaches you to better yourself and your craft. Surround yourself with success, and I promise success will find you; If you try. Try to expand your circle, it’s never big enough. Taking the time to get to know people has always paid off for me. When asked what my hobbies include, networking is on the list of a typical response. In reference to Barney Stinson’s bit on HIMYM: I have a guy for everything, and if I don’t have a guy for it, I have a guy that has guys.
Networking could be thought of as a ‘business relationship’, but I like to think of it more as a ‘service relationship’. Those services can included anything, friendship even, and should always be two-sided. You should always have something to offer in return for your requested service. What you have to offer does not necessarily have to be your expertise. Don’t be afraid to approach someone, especially if you believe it might bring you success. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I hope you have an idol, and if you don’t, get one. Don’t be afraid to ask your idol for help. Message them. Whoever they are, message them. Message anyone you think could be of benefit to you and in my personal experience, you’ll find that more people are willing to help than you think.
I’m not sure why, or how, but 2016 painted the world as a horrible place. A lot of really bad things happened last year, I get it. But this helps lead me to my last point: don’t let past failures prevent future efforts. If you’ve ever made a decision to try, you’ve probably experienced failure. Failure is never fun; but it should not stop you from trying again. Blah, blah, blah Thomas Edison and the lightbulb. But seriously! Think about it. If you keep trying, you CAN succeed. If you stop trying, you CANNOT succeed. These are facts. I urge you, if you’ve been contemplating trying but are holding back: let go. Give it a try and see what happens. That’s literally all you can do. Take it step-by-step, piece-by-piece and try not to bite off more than you can chew.
So take this and do with it what you will. But I hope you takes these words as the ‘sign’ or ‘spark’ you have been waiting for. Share this with anyone who needs a boost, or needs that extra push because they forget the simple rule: